The Trouble with Splitting The Self

AN INTRODUCTION TO THE EMPOWERED IMPERFECT SURGEON COACHING METHOD

It feels like everything is falling apart:

  • "This isn’t working. This isn’t sustainable. This isn’t me."

  • You don’t recognize yourself anymore—your life as a surgeon doesn’t align with the purpose and identity you once cherished.

  • You’ve tried to fix it, but nothing sticks.

Here’s the truth:

You’re not the first surgeon to feel this way. Many have been trapped in the impossible expectations of the profession, trying to meet standards that are inhumane—for themselves, their patients, and their teams.

You’re doing your best to survive a system that wasn’t designed for real humans. And somewhere along the way, you started holding yourself to those same impossible standards.

Here’s what’s really happening–

  • The System: Medicine is failing us—it’s inhumane, relentless, and built for an impossible ideal.

  • The Self: You’ve internalized those same expectations, creating a relationship with yourself and your work that’s toxic and unsustainable.

Together, we’ll shift from being the Impossible Ideal Surgeon to becoming the Empowered Imperfect Surgeon:

  • No more shame. No more pretending. No more feeling like you’re not enough.

  • Instead, you’ll reclaim your humanity and build relationships—with your profession, your patients, and yourself—that are grounded in truth, safety, and ease.

This isn’t about walking away from medicine or giving up your dreams. It’s about creating a sustainable, fulfilling version of the surgeon you want to be while reconnecting with the reason you fell in love with this work in the first place.

The Program + Plan

We’ll work together in two key ways:

Reveal the Truth

  • Understand the industry’s role in creating these impossible expectations.

  • Recognize how your own thoughts and patterns have contributed to this cycle of suffering.

  • Get clear on the difference between what’s yours to carry and what’s too heavy to keep holding.

Reclaim Your Power

  • Practice key skills like:

    • Self-Advocacy and Boundaries

    • Shedding Expectations and Embodying Imperfection

    • Emotional Processing for loss, mistakes, and systemic cruelty

    • Discernment to see the system for what it is without losing yourself

You’ll integrate these practices step-by-step, developing resilience and tools to not just survive but thrive in your profession.

Here’s where we’re going–

  • Immediate Relief: Stop beating yourself up and start seeing yourself clearly.

  • Daily Transformation: Less suffering, more peace, and a better relationship with yourself and your work.

  • Sustainable Success: Build a career where you can practice medicine with humanity, authenticity, and ease—on your own terms.

This also means–

  • More energy, time, and efficiency in your daily life

  • Reconnection with your purpose and passion for surgery

  • A reputation that’s grounded in truth, not perfection

Most importantly, you’ll find the way to love your job again—and that will increase the happiness in your daily life, too.

There are 2 ways to work with me–

1:1 Personal Support

I take a limited number of 1:1 clients for a 6 month timeframe. We’ll meet weekly and get you to where you want to go.

The Empowered Surgeon Group

Surgeons, for a 6 month timeframe we’ll meet weekly on Wednesdays. You’ll also have lifetime access to the entire Empowered Surgeon Framework as Digital Modules.