Self-Compassion for Complications: Move Beyond the Shame Spiral

Complications are an inevitable part of surgery, yet they can trigger intense feelings of self-blame, shame, and fear. We’re told complications mean we’re operating enough, but that doesn’t stop the emotional spiral when they happen. These reactions are normal—actually, they show you care deeply for your patients. The antidote? Self-compassion.

Compassion is an unlimited resource, and it’s as essential to give to yourself as it is to your patients. The story may begin with the complication, but you get to write the ending. Kristen Neff, PhD, a leading expert in self-compassion, offers invaluable resources on her website. When you’re ready to take care of yourself, start here. It’s the first step toward moving through the shame and back into confidence and compassion.

Try these Self-Compassion Practices when complications cause an emotional spin-out.